What difference does “flexigidity” make to you?

I like David’s use of the word “flexigidity” or, as he puts it: taking the healthy tension between the need to change and the need to stay the same—and in a sense, turning it into a marriage.

In a marriage, when two become one they do not lose their core identities. As they strive to be flexible enough to adapt to life together, yet rigid enough not to lose the shape of things that ought not be bent, there will be compromises and differences to resolve.  As in a marriage, if you are looking for flexigidity for your organization, your family, or just for your own personal character, there’s a continual need to work at it, and a continual need for all concerned to go outside their comfort zone.

In an organization or family, there’s a need to discuss the need for adapting to new situations and circumstances, while staying true to core principles. Don’t expect one another to automatically see the need to change and grow, or the need to preserve things that ought not be changed. These things need to be discussed in an atmosphere of mutual respect. You might even want to use David’s article as a jumping off place for the discussion: since it is removed from your situation, it will be easier for people to be objective.

Maybe you would like to develop flexigity on an individual basis, for your own personal growth, and to be able to evaluate and respond, not react, to changes (or lack of changes) going on around you. It will help to recognize the push/pull in your own heart. Are you more likely to push for change or resist change? Once you know your natural tendency, you will know where you have to work harder to achieve a more objective and balanced approach. Remind yourself that adaptability and rigidity both serve a purpose, and pray for wisdom to understand and respond to the need for whichever comes less naturally to you. You may be surprised by the results!